Saturday, November 5, 2011

Curve Ball

Every once in a while life throws one your way. 

We met with the doctor at the fertility clinic on Thursday.  It was a lot different from our first visit there.  Before we went in with a list of questions, this time it seemed more a formality.  Yes, Jen was the one planning on getting pregnant last time, and this time it's me, but we are hoping to go through the same process (unmedicated IUI) so there really wasn't much to ask.

The doctor had a few routine questions for us.  She also gave us the good news that this time we could fore go the psychologist visit.    Then she told us that we could do our first attempt in December. 


As in next month.  

Um, I was thinking February. 

She said that I could get all my blood work and a sonohystogram done this month and as long as everything looked normal we could start inseminations in December.  I was half excited and half freaked out.  December seemed so soon.

After taking a few days to think about it and talking about it with Jen, we've made the decision to wait.  I'm the type of person who likes to have a plan and stick with it.  This was not the plan.  Just because it's possible to start sooner doesn't mean that we have to.  I can do all the screening now and do cycle monitoring through December to be sure that things are okay in January/February.  (The fertility clinic is closed for the holidays, so it all depends on how their hours and my cycle coordinate.) 

Plus, we only have three vials from our donor left in Canada.  If we did attempts from February through April, that would give me a month or two off and then I could do attempts over the summer in Buffalo.  (For newer readers, we have another three vials from our donor in the U.S.)  Whereas if we started in December and were finished as early as February, it would seem like a long hiatus before doing the U.S. attempts and I think I would get impatient having to put things on hold at that point. 

I need to keep reminding myself that we are not in a rush.  Things will happen when they're meant to happen, right?  (Fingers crossed that things do happen.)


  1. How exciting! I would probably stick with the plan, too. I get uncomfortable when things change...even after living with a toddler!

  2. Sounds like a good plan. Definitely don't need to rush!

  3. Yes, things happen when they're meant to happen :-)

  4. whoa, i can see how that would be tempting! sticking with your plan seems the much more level-headed and responsible course though :)

  5. Thanks everyone for the positive feedback. The more I think about it, the more waiting for the new year to do inseminations seems like the best decision.

  6. Are you at the clinic Shannon & Kim and us used?? Just curious.

    So exciting. The new year isn't far away so waiting should be cool. I hate the holiday break anyway so if you start and it doesn't work on try #1, you have to wait a while anyway. Makes sense to just wait and do it when you're ready. A test cycle is nice too...

  7. @Stacey, I'm not sure what clinic they used. We're at Hannam.

  8. Oh my gosh, you're trying again! SO exciting! And I love that you're trusting your instincts. Everything comes down to that one perfect egg and that one perfect sperm anyway, right? And you two are the only ones who can know when those right halves will come together to form the Bean's little brother or sister. Congratulations to you in this time of planning, and waiting, and anticipation! R.

  9. @Stacey Same building, different clinic.